Self-confidence is the memory of success

As a graduate intern, I have the opportunity of giving classroom presentations on topics such as resumes and cover letters, as well as interviewing and networking. I have given several presentations before, but mostly to middle school or high school students, so finding myself giving presentations in a college classroom made me a bit anxious. When going over the material for the presentation, I was confident that I knew the material- but anxious how I would look to college students- seeing as I am a young woman- would they take me seriously?

Through my graduate program we have a class that allows us to practice the skills we have learned from our previous classes on real clients. I say "real" because we are given a case-load and meet with clients each week. I find myself often working on the very problem I have (self-confidence) with my clients. Though my experiences in clinic and in Career Services, I have noticed an overwhelming amount of students and community members who lack self-confidence. They don't feel they are worthy of love, appreciation or even a job.

Why? Who has been telling them they are unworthy? The answer would be....yourself!

I have included a simple self-confidence exercise that I hope you partake in. Building ones self-confidence does not make you a snob or stuck on yourself- rather it gives you an edge. If people see you are confident in yourself- they are more likely to listen to what you have to say and appreciate your ideas.

Self Confidence Exercises

Like physical exercise, self confidence exercises are a way of building strength. Instead of focusing on physical strength, these exercises build character and self-respect.

For these self confidence exercises, you will need a special journal. The first exercise is at the end of each day write down any event in which you receive positive feedback. If you get a well-deserved compliment from your boss, write it down. If your family expresses appreciation for something you’ve done, such as prepare a special meal or take the family on a picnic, add that to your journal as well. If your child tells you that you’re the best mom or dad in the world, record that in your journal.

You can also include in your journal memories of past events that you handled well. It is human nature to remember our failures. If you dwell on the things you have done wrong in your life, your self-confidence will decrease. Instead, remind yourself often of all the things you have done right in your life, both large and small.